Self-esteem is how you see yourself. It is how you rate and value yourself as a person. Do you like the person you see in your mirror? How you see yourself is also how you will project yourself to others.
Society certainly has standards that we are hardbound to meet. We always tend to compare to our revered Hollywood stars, runway models, high profile personalities or just to the over-achiever next door. Thus, we are constantly reminded of our not too perfect features, not too awesome accomplishments. To develop self-esteem, you should be looking at yourself more.
Know your true self – Who are you? What do you enjoy doing? What are your best attributes? What do people like about you? Count your blessings, appreciate them. Realize that you are unique and no other human being can possibly accomplish some things that come naturally to you. Self realization will help you appreciate yourself for the good points and resolve the bad points.
Acceptance – So what’s your problem? You’re working hard, and still you don’t get the promotion? The top honors? Didn’t quite cut the team? Some people are so driven that they don’t realize they’re driving in the wrong path. You might be gunning in the brightest road to success, but is it the road for you? We have to see our limitations, clearly. After all, nobody’s perfect. Successful men realized that a long time ago. Haven’t Bill Gates realized college is not for him? So we don’t have the perfect facial symmetry or the sky high IQ. So what? Nobody’s got them all.
Face the world – Having known and accepted yourself, you’re ready to face the world, as yourself. Opening up and presenting the real you can be daunting. Here are some self-esteem activities to help you out;
- Brave the risks – What if people wouldn’t like you? Then they’re not the kind of people who deserves your attention. What if the new initiative or action plan didn’t work out? Learn from it and take confidence from the lessons.
- Always smile – Do not keep the good vibes to yourself. Spread it around. Be generous with your praises. Always have a smile for everyone, not just for your boss. Eventually, everyone will be smiling back at you. Now, isn’t that good.
- Positivity – Negatives comments will always come our way. Don’t take it personally. Check the source of the criticism, if it’s coming from somewhere irrelevant, simply ignore it. If the source has an impact on you, take it at face value.
- Make a problem list – Write down all your worries and concerns. It could be a long list, but that’s okay. Every morning before you go out to work, try to scan your list for possible problems you’re to face. Just before you go to bed, write down have you we’re able to overcome it. Regularly scan the list for ghost problems, cross it out. You’ll be surprised why you have written them down on the first place.
- Don’t stop learning – Continually improve yourself. Learn a new skill, a new language or travel to somewhere you haven’t been before. You can also try learning how to put on makeup or signing up in a gym. Be ambitious and do not put a lid to your possibilities. Taking on a new endeavor is always invigorating and good for self-esteem.
- Don’t put the blame on you – You are not to blame. If you look long enough at the problem, you will realize this. It could be a miscommunication, the weather, the timing or that other person’s preferences. It’s never you.
- Reward yourself – If there’s anything we love, it’s a good reward. Treat yourself after a spell of hard work, you definitely deserve it.
- Accept what is good for you – Just like taking the pill or eating vegetables, life don’t always make it perfect. Don’t be disheartened just because your job is not the most glamorous in the world. Focus on your performance and the fact that other people depends on you to get it done. If you are good in what you do, why would you need something else?
- Love yourself – Appreciate yourself. See the good person in you. Take a good look at what you have. Not everyone has it, right?